Rae Boxer, a stylist and the fashion director of Mastermind Magazine, and Etienne Der?ux, a fashion designer and creative consultant who works closely with the British rapper Skepta, were introduced at a dinner during Paris Fashion Week. “One of my bridesmaids, Sophie Conti, invited me to go with her that night,” Rae remembers. “We met later on when Etienne was looking for a stylist for his collection. Our friend Alice Pfeiffer set us up for lunch, and we worked together for a year before we started dating. We became best friends.”
The two had been seeing each other for a little more than a year when they became engaged in Ibiza. “We had just started our holiday and were staying at our favorite hotel Les Terrasses,” Rae says. “Etienne had been acting a bit reserved and strange during the first two days. I didn’t understand what was wrong with him, especially as this was the start of our month-long holiday.”
That night, they went out to dinner with some old friends of Rae’s, and when they got back to the hotel later that evening, Rae asked Etienne what was bothering him. “He got a bit nervous and said, ‘I have something to ask you.’ My response was ‘Okay . . . ‘ Side note: I was already in bed, retainer in, glasses on, and it was about 2:00 a.m. He then reach into his suitcase, pulled out a ring that he had designed, and asked if I would be his wife. It?was beautifully imperfect and sweet.”
As soon as they started wedding planning, Rae and Etienne knew they wanted to show their guests the Ibiza they had grown to know and love after years of vacationing there. “We did not want your typical wedding,” Rae is quick to note. “We wanted to take everyone to our favorite restaurants, as well as show them the sea and the beach, so we searched all over the island for a place that spoke to us . . . and could also accommodate 150 people!”
When they’d spent time in Ibiza before, Rae and Etienne typically favored the north where it’s more private and there are beautiful views of the sunset. So for the wedding, They searched high and low there for the wedding, and ultimately found an old traditional Spanish style villa near Portinatx.
The four-day weekend kicked off with a house party there on Thursday night. Rae wore a Louis Vuitton crop top with a white assemblage skirt by Paco Rabanne, a diamond and white gold ear cuff by Ana Khouri, and black leather Rick Owen x Birkenstocks. As the evening went on, she changed into silver sequin leggings by Paco Rabanne so she could dance more freely.
Friday night, Etienne’s parents hosted a rehearsal dinner for everyone at the Ibiza eatery La Paloma, for which Rae chose a white Céline linen and crochet dress from one of Phoebe Philo’s last collections. She paired the dress with shoes that she picked up in London. “They felt like a glass slipper,” she jokes. “They had a round and metal ball for a heel!” She carried a small white Céline bag with a silver chain, and finished off the look with silver and gold metal earrings by Charlotte Chesnais.
For the main event, Rae approached her wedding dress search like she would a client’s and spent a lot of time mood boarding, pulling vintage Vionnet dresses from the 1930s as well as some old Narciso Rodriguez and Ralph Lauren gowns from the ’90s. “I did not look at what other girls had been wearing as I really wanted to find something I felt comfortable in, but that also felt like myself,” Rae explains. “My mother forced a few bridal appointments on me, but nothing worked!” Rae also shopped every vintage boutique she could find between New York and London. Ultimately, her bridesmaid Sophie, who was working with bridal designer Delphine Manivet, stepped in. She suggested Rae meet with Delphine about creating something custom. “We met, and I just adored her,” Rae says. “She made me feel so comfortable and did such a beautiful job. It was a bit last minute, and I was fitting up until about a week before the wedding, but it was a very special experience!”
The morning of the wedding, Rae got ready with her bridesmaids in a vintage Miu Miu slip dress that Etienne bought for her. “On top of that, I wore a lace kimono style robe from the 1920s that I sourced from a vintage boutique in London,” she says. Her getting-ready look was followed by many an outfit change! The first dress of the day was the custom Delphine Manivet gown. “A sapphire stud earring that my sister gave me was my something blue, and I kept in all of my little hoop earrings,” Rae says.
The couple was married on a cliff overlooking the water just below their villa. “The sky was slightly overcast, which was a good thing since it was still very hot around 5:00 p.m.,” Rae says. “We both walked down the aisle arm in arm with our mothers and fathers even though both of our parents are divorced. It was very meaningful that they came together to share this moment with us.”
Rae and Etienne’s best friends—and the two people that brought them together—Edoardo Carver and Alexandre Escande, led the service. “They both wrote a beautiful speech, half in English and half in French,” Rae says. “We are not religious, and it really felt like us.”
After the ceremony, the couple’s good friend Stefan Jovi?i? drove the newlyweds back up to the villa in a white Mini Moke. “We arrived at the cocktail hour and everyone was cheering and clapping,” Rae says. “It was such an emotional and beautiful feeling to have all of your closest friends and family there to celebrate and to be so happy for you. We were so lucky!”
During cocktail hour, Rae changed into a short white Louis Vuitton dress from the 2018 cruise collection, and hair stylist Andrea, who works closely with Paul Hanlon, took her hair down and pulled it into a half-up-half-down look.?The terraces and patio were transformed into a bar garnished with greenery, while the dinner was held in the garden around the villa’s swimming pool, overlooking the ocean. Guests were seated at long tables where family and friends were mixed together. Boris Buono from Ibiza Food Studio was the chef for the evening, assisted by caterer Fiona Frith, and a signature spritz was served along with mezcal-infused oysters, gazpacho verde, various tapas, and Iberic lamb or Mediterranean fish for the main dish. For dessert, vegan cakes made by the couple’s friends Sullivan Hoziaux and Marie Vial from Up Grain in Brussels were a hit.
Before the dancing really got started, Rae’s father, Garry Boxer, gave a speech and sang a song called “Raeby Baby” that he had written—it moved almost everyone to tears. Rae remembers “the whole party singing the chorus together. It was a moment I’ll never forget!”
Parisian DJ Piu Piu then kicked everything up a notch. Before everyone moved into the house, which had been transformed into a night club, Rae changed into a beaded and lace jumpsuit by Louis Vuitton. At that point, she threw her hair up into a chignon—ready to dance the night away.